What is the Best Advice You’ve Ever Received?
- Ask for what you need.
Never assume anyone can read your mind. Use your voice to ask for what you need, then let that person meet your needs or allow them to express their inability to meet your needs. However, ask for what you need.
- Trust, but verify.
The Russian Proverb taught to Ronald Reagan by Suzanne Massie during his presidency. Gives me Stranger Things vibes.
- Marriage is not 50% & 50%; it’s 100% & 100%.
Full disclosure, I am divorced and maybe that’s because we didn’t accept the advice I received on my wedding night in August 2010. During the ceremony, the pastor marrying me to my now ex-husband told us that marriage is not a 50/50; Marriage needs to be 100% from both parties.
- Never lower your expectations for people.
May my daughter take this lesson with her throughout her life. When I hear people say, “I need to lower my expectations because people always let me down,” I want to remind them to always keep their expectations high. It may surprise you, but people want you to keep your standards high because they don’t want to only meet them, but exceed your expectations.
- Kids crave structure.
There are four types of parenting styles: authoritarian, authoritative, permissive and uninvolved. Regardless of the style you fall under, kids crave structure. They depend on the adults in their lives to provide structure because it’s not in their ability to do so for themselves.
- Always put your partner before your children.
Maybe you will disagree, but I come from a childhood where my mother put her partner before the well-being of her children. I will never put a partner before my children, ever!
- Don’t tell anyone about your mental health.