Embrace Your Weirdness
The Daily Laws Excerpt, Day 10/365
January 10, Embrace Your Weirdness
“The most courageous act is still to think for yourself.” — Coco Chanel
Daily Law: Always stick to what makes you weird, odd, strange, different. That’s your source of power.
Personal Reflection: This episode is a “must-listen.” Greene, author of The Daily Laws, can often be dry and monotone during audio interviews, but this is an exception. In my journey of self-exploration by reading and writing daily, attending psychotherapy to heal from childhood trauma and abuse, recent loss of a child, co-parenting with a very toxic ex-partner while returning to school and working in excess of full-time, I have felt less confined to the constructs of society and more free to be myself. Perhaps age, maturity, trauma and/or loss has contributed to my ability to let go of the opinions of others and acknowledge what makes me unique.
I self-identify as the “black sheep” of the family I chose to leave behind. Being raised by a racist, bigoted, sexist, classist, misogynistic, fake Christian family, they treated me as an outcast because I chose to ask questions about Christianity, because I went to college, because I had friends with black skin, because I voted with the Independent party. There have been times that I felt so alone because of my emotional maturity, but this maturity has allowed me to develop a deep compassion for others and during parenting. These lessons, through recovery and loneliness, has awakened me to meaningful experiences making my job as a mother, more positively impactful. What was once pain is now my motivation and this decision to turn pain into motivation is conscious. Anecdotal information of immeasurable goals sounds like something out of a commercial cult, but in my circumstance, I use thought-stopping and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy techniques.
Let me explain. Rather than dwelling on my past, the choices I have made, things about myself that makes me different from others or concerning myself with the thoughts of others, my plan is to stop those thoughts once I notice them happening and then redirect my thoughts to the things I’ve done well in my life. Often, I’ll think about my accomplishments and more importantly, those accomplishments despite all odds.
In conclusion, I challenge you to consider three things that make you different. Write them down or list them in your mind, then explain how they have positively impacted your life. Should you find yourself at a wall, identify accomplishments and how that makes you different from your peers.