Avoid the False Alliance
The Daily Laws by Robert Greene, Pg. 146
No one can get far in life without allies. The trick, however, is to recognize the difference between false allies and real ones. A false alliance is created out of an immediate emotional need. It requires that you give up something essential about yourself and make it impossible for you to make your own decisions. A true alliance is formed out of mutual self-interests, each side supplying what the other cannot get alone. It does not require you to fu7se your own identity with that of a group or pay attention to everyone else’s emotional needs. It allows you autonomy.
Daily Law: Cultivate real allies. Find those with mutual self-interests and make an alliance.
The 33 Strategies of War, Strategy 27: Seem to Work for the Interest of Others while Furthering your Own — The Alliance Strategy.